Interacting with strangers: Balancing kindness and discernment

Interacting with people you don’t know can be a tricky balance between showing kindness and protecting yourself.

As followers of Christ, we’re called to show love and compassion to others, including strangers. But it’s also important to use wisdom and discernment in each situation to ensure we are safe and stay true to our values.

This page offers practical advice on how to be kind and helpful to strangers while keeping healthy boundaries.

1. Show Kindness Without Compromising Safety

Kindness is a core value in our faith. Jesus teaches us to love others as ourselves, and this includes being kind to strangers. However, it’s important to use common sense and protect yourself while interacting with people you don’t know.

• Be friendly, but cautious: It’s good to greet strangers with a smile or friendly conversation, but be mindful of the situation. Trust your instincts and avoid sharing personal details with people you’ve just met.
• Help without overcommitting: If a stranger needs help, such as directions or assistance with a task, it’s good to lend a hand if you’re able. But set limits to ensure you’re not putting yourself at risk or being taken advantage of.

2. Practice Hospitality and Generosity

We’re encouraged to be generous and welcoming, especially to those in need. Whether someone is asking for help or simply needs a kind word, we can reflect Christ’s love by offering hospitality and support where we can.

• Help with what you can: You don’t have to fix every problem or meet every need, but you can help in small ways. Offering a kind word, sharing resources, or helping someone find the support they need are all acts of generosity.
• Set boundaries: Generosity should come with boundaries. It’s okay to say no when a request for help makes you uncomfortable or feels unsafe. Learning to balance generosity with self-care is an important part of interacting with strangers wisely.

3. Listen to the Holy Spirit for Guidance

God has given us the Holy Spirit to help guide our decisions. When interacting with strangers, take a moment to pray or reflect, asking for wisdom and clarity on how to proceed in each situation. If you feel a sense of unease or caution, listen to that inner voice.

• Pray for discernment: Before you engage deeply with someone you don’t know, take a moment to pray for wisdom. Ask God to guide you in how to respond and protect you from harm.
  Follow your instincts: If something feels off, it’s okay to remove yourself from the situation. Trusting your instincts is important in navigating interactions safely.

4. Build Healthy Boundaries

Kindness does not mean you have to sacrifice your safety or values. Setting boundaries is essential to protecting yourself while still being open to helping others. Boundaries allow you to help without overextending yourself or compromising your personal safety.

• Know when to step away: Not every interaction requires deep involvement. Sometimes, the best way to help is by offering kind words and stepping away when the conversation or situation starts to feel uncomfortable.
• Keep personal information private: Be cautious about sharing personal details like where you live, work, or go to school. You can be friendly and helpful without sharing too much information with strangers.

5. Be Mindful of Potential Risks

While it’s good to show kindness, it’s important to stay aware of your surroundings and potential risks. Being mindful helps you navigate interactions with strangers in a way that’s safe and wise.

• Meet in public places: If you’re meeting someone for the first time, or if you’re helping someone out, try to stay in public areas. This ensures you’re in a safe environment and minimizes potential risks.
• Have an exit plan: If you find yourself in an uncomfortable or potentially unsafe situation, it’s helpful to have an exit strategy. Always know how to leave the conversation or location quickly and safely if needed.

Finding the Balance

Interacting with strangers is part of daily life, and while there are risks, there are also opportunities to reflect God’s love. By showing kindness, practicing discernment, and setting healthy boundaries, you can navigate these interactions in a way that honors your values and keeps you safe.

Remember, kindness doesn’t mean putting yourself at risk. With the guidance of the Holy Spirit, wisdom, and careful attention to boundaries, you can engage with strangers in a way that reflects both love and caution.

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The rest of the page provides biblical principles for having discernment. Kindness is a gift that can sometimes be taken advantage of. The information below is designed to help you know when to set healthy boundaries.

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7 Bible verses about being kind with discernment

Compiled by the Hope For Africa staff on September 23, 2024

Bible verses related to “Interacting with strangers: Balancing kindness and discernment” from the New King James Version (NKJV) by Relevance

• Matthew 10:16
  “Behold, I send you out as sheep in the midst of wolves. Therefore be wise as serpents and harmless as doves.”
  Explanation: It’s important to balance kindness and goodness with wisdom and caution when dealing with strangers.
• 1 John 4:1
  “Beloved, do not believe every spirit, but test the spirits, whether they are of God; because many false prophets have gone out into the world.”
  Explanation: Even those who appear harmless can prove to be dangerous. So have a way to vett those you meet for the first time.
• Proverbs 14:15
  “The simple believe every word, But the prudent considers well his steps.”
  Explanation: Don’t trust everything you see or hear. Always give a second and third look and carefully evaluate the situation before getting into an unfamiliar situation or new interaction.
• 1 Thessalonians 5:21-22
  “Test all things; hold fast what is good. Abstain from every form of evil.”
  Explanation: In every new situation, evaluate what is good and acceptable, and only accept the positive while rejecting anything that’s negative and evil.
• Hebrews 13:2
  “Do not forget to entertain strangers, for by so doing some have unwittingly entertained angels.”
  Explanation: We should always strive to show kindness even to strangers in a safe environment, because we never know what the effect of our generous actions may lead to.
• Leviticus 19:34
  “The stranger who dwells among you shall be to you as one born among you, and you shall love him as yourself; for you were strangers in the land of Egypt: I am the Lord your God.”
  Explanation: We should not take advantage of strangers who have no one to depend on or protect them. Instead, we should remember that we have been or could be in the same situation and treat them the way we’d wish to be treated in the same situation.
• Matthew 25:35
  “For I was hungry and you gave Me food; I was thirsty and you gave Me drink; I was a stranger and you took Me in;”
  Explanation: Jesus identifies with the needy stranger who needs our help. So in being kind to them, we’re being Kind to Jesus.

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